1.2. I LIKE

HOW I...

Parents can be their own harshest critics, focusing on the slip-ups, ruminating on what is not working, and so on... If that is you you - here is a little exercise to help you to turn this around. Don't worry if it's tricky at the beginning - it will get easier with practise!

Complete the sentence: 'I like how I...'. 

 

You can journal about it or come up with a list whilst you are waiting in a queue or let your mind wonder as you are waking up in the morning. 

Don’t force it. Make space for it and give it some time, allow it to come, to reveal itself. Here are a few examples:

  • I like how I stop and listen when my child wants to tell me something. 

  • I like how neatly I chops carrots for her snack.

  • I like how I stepped back when I was about to launch into a lecture yesterday.

  • I like how I managed to keep it together when he could not find his PE kit in the morning.

  • I like how I feel pure joy when I look at my child.

  • I like how I...

 

Here is a tip to help you keep going and to stay focused for long enough: move your thumb along your fingers every time you think of something you like about your parenting. Start at the top of your index finger and by the time you get to the top of your pinky finger you'll have 12 things on your 'list'. Here is a photo to help you picture what I am talking about:

If you do it regularly, you will notice how the impact of this practice builds up over time. I invite you to do it daily for a week or so and see if you'd like to add it to your toolkit. 

Here are some variations you can try to suit your love language: 

  • Physical touch - pay attention to how your body responds to your thoughts about the things you like about yourself

  • Quality time - treat this practice as 'me' time

  • Words of affirmation - it already speaks your love language, you can take it further by creating an affirmation - something like ‘I am good/amazing at...’

  • Gifts - make a note or a poster or something beautiful to remind you of the things you like about yourself 

  • Acts of service - find a way to nurture what you like about yourself/are good at (it might be a book, a workshop or a course)

 

Give it a go and let us know what you make of it in the group

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