Being a Secure Base

A greenhouse for nurturing emotional security

At the heart of every child’s well-being is a sense of emotional security: knowing they are safe, seen, and loved as they grow into themselves. Many things can impact our children's sense of security: life events, the people around them, their own temperament and neurodiversity. As much as we would love to, we can’t control all of these factors. We can't clear all the bumps from our children's paths. But what we can influence is how we show up in our relationship with them. Being a Secure Base is designed to support you to step more fully into being a steady, attuned presence your child can rely on through the ups and downs.

Being a Secure Base offers practical insight, emotional support, and tools you can carry into everyday parenting. This process can help you to:

Deepen your understanding of your child’s emotional needs through a clear, compassionate framework grounded in attachment science.
Strengthen your ability to respond with calm and confidence, even when your child is upset, withdrawn, or pushing you away.
Heal the impact of your own early attachment experiences, so they no longer get in the way of the relationship you want with your child.
Build simple, sustainable practices for connection that you can return to in everyday moments.
Feel more grounded, resourced, and supported as you navigate the challenges and joys of being a parent.

What is covered in Being a Secure Base

Leading attachment researcher Patricia Papernow suggests that when it comes to nurturing attachment security, it’s helpful to think of three layers:

Psychoeducation
Relational skills
Intrapsychic work

Being a Secure Base is designed to support you in all three areas:

Psychoeducation: we need a map to make sense of our children’s behaviours and needs. The Circle of Security Parenting course provides a clear, accessible framework based on decades of attachment research. It helps you see what could be driving your child’s behaviour and what they need from you in those moments.
Relational skills: putting our understanding into practice is where the real work happens. That’s why after each session, you’ll receive a Meditation for Connection: a short guided reflection to help you stay focused on what we just covered and experiment with applying it in your day-to-day parenting.
Intrapsychic work: sometimes, despite our best efforts, something gets in the way. It is often tied to the pain of our own unmet attachment needs. Our reactions may be shaped by experiences we haven’t had the chance to fully process. This is where Brainspotting comes in: a gentle, effective therapeutic approach that helps resolve trauma and deepen your emotional availability. When we tend to our own wounds, we free up more space to truly show up for our children.

If you would like to parent from a place of greater clarity, connection, and confidence, join Being a Secure Base today.

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Being a Secure Base

Length: about 6 months (24 50-minute weekly term-time sessions)

Support in between the sessions:

Voice message support
Meditations for Connection

Location: online, via Zoom

Start date: flexible

Investment: 6 monthly payments of £250 or one payment of £1350

If you would like to explore how Being a Secure Base can help you, fill in the Getting to Know You form. As soon as you submit the form, you'll receive a link to my calendar to schedule a free no-obligation initial consultation where we can explore if this is the right fit for you. Click the link below to get started.

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We’ll begin our work together with the Circle of Security Parenting Interview. It is a set of research-based questions designed to help us gain deeper insight into your unique relationship with your child. This conversation offers you an opportunity to pause, reflect, and see your relationship more clearly. It helps me understand how I can tailor our work to better fit your family’s needs. Together, we'llcreate a clearer starting point for the work ahead.

Frequently asked questions

Why is this course delivered over 24 sessions?

While every relationship is unique, research shows that, on average, it takes about six months of committed effort to shift attachment patterns. Doing the course over 24 sessions allows this process to unfold organically. You can observe your relationship and get clear about where you would like to show up differently. Then you can experiment with it and find a way that feels comfortable and aligned with how you want to parent your child. It takes some time for your child to notice and respond to the change. They might push for a while to check if this change will stay. It takes some back and forth between you and your child until it becomes your new normal. You are supported every step of the way when we do the course over 24 sessions.

What happens during the sessions?

There are three parts to each session:

Checking in about your week, your observations, reflections, wins and challenges.
Studying the course material: each session covers an essential piece of information about developing secure relationships. The content is delivered in a highly interactive and relatable way through videos of parents and their children, graphics and plenty of time for reflection and discussions that will help you to weave your insights into your day-to-day parenting.
Reflecting on the session offers the opportunity to decide what you would like to take away from the session and explore further during the coming week.

Do I need to do anything between sessions?

The most important thing is to keep your insights from the previous session in your awareness as you go about your day-to-day parenting. It’s not about doing more; it’s about doing differently.

What if I already know this and it doesn’t change anything?
You might already know a lot, and that’s a strength, not a setback. What makes this package different is how it brings everything together: the insight from attachment theory, the relational skills to use in the moment, and the emotional support to help you integrate it all. You’re not just learning more, you’re being supported to live it in a way that fits you.

How will I manage what might come up if I start looking at my attachment history?
This work meets you gently, at your own pace. Brainspotting is a trauma-sensitive, body-based approach. There’s no pressure to talk through everything or dig up the past. It’s about helping your nervous system release what’s ready to shift, so you can feel more at ease in the present.

Can I actually change how I react in the moment?
This concern is completely understandable, especially if you’ve been stuck in reactive cycles for a long time. This work doesn’t expect perfection. It supports you in building small, realistic shifts over time, with space for trial and error. The meditations and sessions help you strengthen your ability to pause and decide how you want to respond, moment by moment.

If you would like to explore how Being a Secure Base can help you, please fill in my Getting to Know You form.