I’ve spoken with many separated dads who worry about their relationship with their children. I often hear them say: “If only I had more time with them, things would be better, our relationship would be stronger”. 

 

While that might be true, if having more time with their children is not available currently, ruminating over it is not the best use of their mental space and energy. Instead, I help those dads make the most of the time that they do have with their children. We do that by helping them get better at meeting their children's emotional needs.

 

As parents, we all do that to a certain extent, but when you are in a situation where you don’t have that much time with your children, it is essential to get really good at it.

 

I’d go even further and say that if you don’t know how to pick up your children’s cues about what they need from you, having more time with your children may not help you have better relationships with them because you can end up spending more time physically in the same space, but not connecting in the way that feels fulfilling for you and your children. 

 

I’ve put together a free online workshop in which I will cover a simple framework that shows what to look out for and takes the guesswork of understanding your children’s emotional needs. By the end of the workshop, you will have a simple visual and a set of 4 questions that will help you guide your parenting decisions and nurture a strong bond with your children.