Parenting whilst you are healing from narcissistic abuse is hard work. 

Your ex is probably still attempting to control and undermine you at every opportunity.  The children are picking up on the anxiety and acting out. You have cPTSD and are struggling to keep a lid on your own emotions.

You aren’t sure about boundaries and discipline because it wasn’t something you were taught and if/when you do attempt to put boundaries in place with the children, you are worried they might go running to the narcissist and turn you into the bad guy.

On top of that, you may fear that your children are turning into narcissists themselves and aren’t sure how to stop that from happening or even if it is possible.

All of which create internal and external chaos.

Chaos and parenting mean heightened emotions and challenging behaviour. Which, after an abusive relationship, can be very triggering…