Blog | Una Archer | Parenting after Separation

There is no "but"

I will probably never forget this conversation with a dad doing a Circle of Security Parenting Course (shared here with his permission)....

Do you feel like you are doing and worrying 24/7, and it’s never enough?

Parenting can be exhausting, like running a marathon and then some. Especially if you are going through a rough patch, it can feel like...

Looking after the bandwidth of your relationship

A secure relationship is a relationship in which we can share a lot of our authentic selves. Our hopes, dreams, fears, emotions… Not just...

Trusting goodness

My favourite and most simple definition of relationship security - it is trust in goodness. My goodness, the goddess of the other person,...

Kindness and boundaries

What do you say to yourself when you feel you are running out of patience? That you must try harder? That you are letting down your...

Getting better at relationship repair

What is relationship repair? Repair is recognising the rupture in our relationship, that moment when we became unavailable to our...

Looking after yourself when your child is not ok

What’s it like for you when your child is not ok? When your child is feeling anxious, sad, overwhelmed, acting out, picking on siblings,...

Helping children to talk about loss

Starting a conversation about a family member who passed away or is absent for other reasons can be daunting. It can be hard to know when...

Boundaries that connect

We went camping a few years ago. A real adventure – we lived in the tent for five whole weeks. We loved most of it, and it was just as...

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